This is a qualifying consent event for Level 3 if the participant has on time attendance, actively participates and demonstrates level appropriate consent skills.
This event is automatically wait listed.
Okay, let's admit it, at one time or another we've all said yes when we wanted to say no, no when we wanted to say yes, and maybe when we really didn't mean it. Also, at one time or another, we've pushed someone's boundaries, invaded their personal space, went in for a hug without waiting, accepted a lukewarm yes when we knew they didn't mean it. Right?!?
In this 2 1/2 hour session you will learn and practice the following:
* Where your line in the sand is, and where you want to test your own boundaries (maybe you don't know how you feel about something until it happens).
* Learn how to explore safely using negotiation, changing your yes to a no when appropriate for you and giving and getting feedback.
* Learn how to say "no", gently and with care yet with authority and finality. • How to deal with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries (dealing with it as it happens, reporting it, finding support after the fact).
* Physical maneuvers to evade: the unwanted hug, the stray hand in a snuggle, the person who doesn't hear or respect your "no".
* What to do if you have a fight, flight, or freeze response, and how to recognize that someone you are interacting with has frozen (usually caused by past trauma).
This is a practical class where we discuss actual and theoretical situations, give useful information for how to deal with them and practice setting boundaries with each other.
We are very specifically not going to be trying to place blame on self or others, as we strongly believe that this is a larger cultural and systemic problem.
Like all problems, boundaries can best be handled by starting compassionately and with a view to problem solving and best practices.
The sex positive movement sees people of every gender presentation longing for more love, connection, touch and pleasure in their lives. We know that sex-negativity has systematically robbed people of safe and healthy ways to get these needs met. We know that there is much work to be done to reclaim sexuality as something natural, healthy and beautiful. Helping people feel safe and empowered is key; and good boundaries are vital.
The workshop will be led by Jen who is part of SPSD leadership team, a long time educator, and active in the sex positive community.