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What is an Orientation?

After you have applied to the group you can attend any level 1 event that interests you. In order to become fully active in the group, we require you to have your application approved, attend an Orientation, and pay yearly member dues. Orientation is a full-evening of activity introduces our ideas and mission, explains how our group and events work, and includes some fun interactive games. These occur every other month at varying locations. After orientation, if your application has been approved and you have paid your yearly member dues, you may attend both L1 & L2 events.

Here's what a few folks have shared after attending an Orientation:

"Orientation was very clear, well-organized and put together. Everything about this event made me feel comfortable with not only my own boundaries, but recognizing and honoring others (especially how to communicate all of that). My heart swelled three sizes at the end when we all got to acknowledge our bravery for tonight."

"The leadership group is amazing!  Participants very interesting. Great job.  Took a difficult topic and nervous group and turned it into something amazing."

"The atmosphere was welcoming and comfortable. Lots of great information about asking consent. Fabulous job overall. Great info, great group of people. I look forward to attending future events."

Our events

SexPositive events are coded Level 1 through Level 3

Level One 

Friendly, flirtatious, and playful, but non-sensual. Activities might include workshops, discussion groups, classes, meet and greets, book clubs, eating, or dancing.

Level Two 

Sensual, increasingly flirtatious, but not sexual. Activities might include workshops or classes with nudity or live demonstrations, light touching, sexy dancing, or sensual massage. 


Requirements for attending L2 events: Accepted application, paid yearly member dues, attended an Orientation

Level Three 

Activities might include intimate touch, kissing, and playful exploration between individuals, couples, or groups.


Requirements for attending L3 events: Attended an advanced boundaries/consent workshop, attend (2) L2 events, attend (1) L2 touch event, leadership approval for L3 status, up to date membership dues paid


At events you are expected be respectful of the boundaries of others and of the event, to take care of yourself, and honor your boundaries and agreements. Beyond that, anything else is up to you. You will never be expected to do anything you don't want to, or to interact with anyone you don’t wish to. But we do expect you to contribute to the vibe through positive social interaction. Sex-positivity is about authentic, respectful, open communication, and being honest about your desires.

Upcoming events

    • 23 Oct 2019
    • 6:30 PM - 7:30 PM
    • Mission Hills-Hillcrest/Harley & Bessie Knox Library-215 West Washington Street, between Goldfinch and Hawk Streets in the Community Room
    • 10
    Register

    This discussion group is open to anyone who is curious about or already active in ethical non-monogamy lifestyle, including open relationships, swinging, polyamory. The purpose of this group is to help those just starting to gain a better understanding of ethical non-monogamy and to support individuals already navigating these relational dynamics through shared experiences and communal support. Ultimately, the hope is that you will learn more about your relational needs, wants, and desires in a space that is in support of your exploration, questions, and growth.  Please bring your partners and friends if desired!  There is a place to register guests so we know the headcount a head of time, if you are comfortable with that. 

    This discussion group will be moderated by L3 leadership member Julia Schiffman, a psychotherapy who works with sexually, gender, and relationally diverse individual, couples, and consenting non-monogamy-poly relationships.  

    Timeline of activities (including opening and closing circle)

    6:30-6:45 Opening Circle  and Introduction of the Weekly Topic/Excerpt 

    6:45-7:30 Group Discussion and Closing Circle

    • 26 Oct 2019
    • 2:00 PM - 5:00 PM
    • Escondido, CA 92027
    • 0
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    This is a qualifying consent event for Level 3 if the participant has on time attendance, actively participates and demonstrates level appropriate consent skills.

    This event is automatically wait listed.

    Okay, let's admit it, at one time or another we've all said yes when we wanted to say no, no when we wanted to say yes, and maybe when we really didn't mean it. Also, at one time or another, we've pushed someone's boundaries, invaded their personal space, went in for a hug without waiting, accepted a lukewarm yes when we knew they didn't mean it. Right?!?

    In this 2 1/2 hour session you will learn and practice the following:

    * Where your line in the sand is, and where you want to test your own boundaries (maybe you don't know how you feel about something until it happens).

    * Learn how to explore safely using negotiation, changing your yes to a no when appropriate for you and giving and getting feedback.

    * Learn how to say "no", gently and with care yet with authority and finality. • How to deal with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries (dealing with it as it happens, reporting it, finding support after the fact).

    * Physical maneuvers to evade: the unwanted hug, the stray hand in a snuggle, the person who doesn't hear or respect your "no".

    * What to do if you have a fight, flight, or freeze response, and how to recognize that someone you are interacting with has frozen (usually caused by past trauma).

    This is a practical class where we discuss actual and theoretical situations, give useful information for how to deal with them and practice setting boundaries with each other.

    We are very specifically not going to be trying to place blame on self or others, as we strongly believe that this is a larger cultural and systemic problem.

    Like all problems, boundaries can best be handled by starting compassionately and with a view to problem solving and best practices.

    The sex positive movement sees people of every gender presentation longing for more love, connection, touch and pleasure in their lives. We know that sex-negativity has systematically robbed people of safe and healthy ways to get these needs met. We know that there is much work to be done to reclaim sexuality as something natural, healthy and beautiful. Helping people feel safe and empowered is key; and good boundaries are vital.

    The workshop will be led by Jen who is part of SPSD leadership team, a long time educator, and active in the sex positive community.


    • 02 Nov 2019
    • 1:30 PM - 3:30 PM
    • The Gym in Mission Hills, 3974 Dove Street, San Diego, CA 92103
    • 5
    Register

    Have you heard of Somatic Sex Education? SSE is a relatively new alternative healing modality that deals exclusively with sexual health and wellness. The work is based on the application of mindfulness techniques to sex, of listening to our bodies, noticing and following pleasure through body sensation. Let’s face it: our culture is basically sex-negative (even though sex is used to sell everything under the sun!) We are all touched in some way by the trauma and shame that our culture places on sex positivity and the healthy acceptance of pleasure into our lives. Working with a somatic sex educator or sexological bodyworker you can learn to deepen the body’s response to sex, overcome various sexual issues and concerns, heal from trauma, learn to channel sexual energy, even come to a more spiritual understanding of the meaning and experience of sex.

    In this two-hour presentation, Somatic Sex Educators Nic Reveles (San Diego-based and SPSD Leadership Team Member) and Court Petrie (LA-based) will introduce you to this exciting new field. You will be introduced to the science underlying the work as well as the importance of setting boundaries, exploring the complexity of human touch, breath-work, massage and some of the Tantric techniques used in the modality of sexological bodywork. You’ll also engage in some simple, gentle exercises to achieve greater embodiment. No disrobing will be required and participation in any exercises will be completely optional.

    Your sexual potential is greater than you think. It is also important for your health and overall wellness! Come learn about Somatic Sex Education and its benefits for your sex life! 

    PENDING MEMBERS: this event will meet the social event requirement needed to become a full member. Just sign in with a member of leadership at the event. If you're membership has been pending for 3 or more months and you have yet to attend a social/mixer, your membership could be denied.

    • 12 Nov 2019
    • 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM
    • Bitter Brothers 4170 Morena Blvd, San Diego, CA 92117
    Register

    Join us for a some cocktails and connection at our monthly SPSD Social Mixer. Put a fresh spin on your Tuesday evening and meet other like-minded folks and your leadership team. This is the perfect opportunity to get to know your community & those who are a part of the leadership team, learn about Sex Positive San Diego, our mission and membership, and future events!

    This is a Level 1 event, which means it is in a public place and you are welcome to bring a friend. This event is a simple social and open to the public. Come when you can and no orientation is required. Introduce yourself, chat, and get to know some of our group members!

    This mixer will be hosted by Judy, Josh and Nic! Look for SPSD sign inside the brewery! If you have questions, feel free to ask any member of our leadership team that is in attendance. Now is your time to pick our brain about all things SPSD and sex related.

    What to bring: Yourself, a guest if you wish (as this is an L1 event, orientation is not a requirement to attend this event), any questions you may have for some of our leadership or senior members.

    PENDING MEMBERS: this event will meet the social event requirement needed to become a full member. Just sign in with a member of leadership at the event. If you're membership has been pending for 3 or more months and you have yet to attend a social/mixer, your membership could be denied.

Past events

13 Oct 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer - Brunch
08 Oct 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
21 Aug 2019 [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy
04 Aug 2019 Rewriting Our Sexual Stories: From Madness to Mindfulness
16 Jul 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
12 Jul 2019 **FIELD TRIP** Hillcrest PRIDE Block Party
07 Jul 2019 **FIELD TRIP**Annual Black's Beach Outing
27 Jun 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
26 Jun 2019 [L2] Sexuality and Healing Discussion Group
01 Jun 2019 *Field Trip* Leather Realm Taco Trio
30 May 2019 Orientation (Level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
23 May 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
17 May 2019 [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy
15 May 2019 **Field Trip** LGBTQ ShortFest One Night/20 Shorts
04 May 2019 **Field Trip** Drew Blair's Equal Sex Ed Art Sexhibition
26 Apr 2019 [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy
13 Apr 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
30 Mar 2019 Toe Dippin': Skin [L2]
30 Mar 2019 Facilitator Training: Conflict Resolution [L2]
30 Mar 2019 Facilitator Training: Concept to Calendar [L2]
29 Mar 2019 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
22 Mar 2019 [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy
20 Mar 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
24 Feb 2019 [L1]Sunday Brunch Mixer
22 Feb 2019 [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy
17 Feb 2019 [L2] Valentine's Sexy Game Night!
13 Feb 2019 **FIELD TRIP**Singles Valentine's Event
25 Jan 2019 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
09 Jan 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
13 Dec 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
15 Nov 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
19 Sep 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
09 Sep 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
06 Sep 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
26 Aug 2018 Ladies ONLY Coffee Communion/Meet and Greet (everyone identifying as female welcome)
22 Aug 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
16 Aug 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
28 Jul 2018 **FIELD TRIP**Summer BBQ Social
22 Jul 2018 **FIELD TRIP**Annual Black's Beach Outing
19 Jul 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
20 Jun 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
08 Jun 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
08 Jun 2018 **Field Trip** "Pussy Grabs Back" Vagina Art Exhibit
03 Jun 2018 Coffee Communion [L1]
31 May 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
30 May 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Barnett Avenue Adult Superstore
20 May 2018 [L1] **Qualifying Event for L3** Bawdy Boundaries: Sex, Consent, & American Values
19 Apr 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
01 Apr 2018 **FIELD TRIP**Free HAI Mini Workshop: “Intimacy and Connection”
25 Mar 2018 **Field Trip**/**Qualifying L2 Touch Event** All Girl Cuddle (everyone identifying as female welcome)
22 Mar 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
21 Mar 2018 CANCELLED L2 Play Lab
18 Mar 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
18 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Rivers of Love Erotic Massage
17 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Sacred Pelvic Healing Massage
16 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Erotic Empowerment Ceremony
04 Mar 2018 **Field Trip** Bliss Puja Dirty Dancing & All Gender Play Party
02 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Tantric Massage Secrets for Couples
22 Feb 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
22 Feb 2018 [L1] Poly Discussion Group
18 Feb 2018 [L1] Orientation and Potluck and [L2] Sensual Social
13 Feb 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Passionate High: Curious About Cannabis?
09 Feb 2018 **Field Trip** Behind Closed Doors Fetish Art Exhibition
28 Jan 2018 **FIELD TRIP** The Sweet Spot San Diego: Fetish Edition (Burlesque Variety Show)
21 Jan 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
20 Jan 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
13 Jan 2018 **Field Trip** Honoring & Pleasuring the Masculine
09 Jan 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
07 Jan 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Yoni Massage with Jwala plus Potluck & Free Yummy Dancing Party
19 Dec 2017 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
17 Dec 2017 [L1] SPSD Holiday Party
17 Dec 2017 **CANCELED** Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
17 Dec 2017 Coffee Communion [L1]
14 Dec 2017 **FIELD TRIP** Taste 'n' Tinis
10 Dec 2017 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
10 Dec 2017 **Field Trip** Monogamish — San Diego Screening + Q&A w/Director
07 Dec 2017 **Field Trip** **Woman identified folks only** 3 Ways Being Comfortable with Sex Make You a Better Progressive
19 Nov 2017 [L1/L2] Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
16 Nov 2017 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
15 Nov 2017 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
28 Oct 2017 [L1] Plays Well With Others: Negotiating Relationship Boundaries and Agreements for Group Sexploration!
22 Oct 2017 **CANCELED** [L1/L2] Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
19 Oct 2017 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
14 Oct 2017 **FIELD TRIP** The Cock & Pussy Project San Diego
11 Oct 2017 [L1] Social Mixer
22 Sep 2017 **Field Trip** World Sexual Health Day - San Diego
21 Sep 2017 **Field Trip** 7 Barriers to a Sexually Empowered Life
17 Sep 2017 [L1/L2] Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
10 Sep 2017 [L1] Class: How to Get Freaky Without Being Creepy: Navigating Consent, Boundaries, and Touch with Charlie Glickman
24 Aug 2017 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
25 Jun 2017 Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
10 Jun 2017 [L1] Day of Sacred Sex
21 May 2017 CANCELLED Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
30 Apr 2017 Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
19 Mar 2017 Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
14 Mar 2017 [L1] Blow Job Grad School with Reid Mihalko
13 Mar 2017 [L1] Plays Well With Others: Negotiating Relationship Boundaries and Agreements for Group Sexploration!
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