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• [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy

  • When
    23 Oct 2019
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    6:30 PM - 7:30 PM
  • Location
    Mission Hills-Hillcrest/Harley & Bessie Knox Library-215 West Washington Street, between Goldfinch and Hawk Streets in the Community Room
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  This discussion group is open to anyone who is curious about or already active in ethical non-monogamy lifestyle, including open relationships, swinging, polyamory. The purpose of this group is to help those just starting to gain a better understanding of ethical non-monogamy and to support individuals already navigating these relational dynamics through shared experiences and communal support. Ultimately, the hope is that you will learn more about your relational needs, wants, and desires in a space that is in support of your exploration, questions, and growth.  Please bring your partners and friends if desired!  There is a place to register guests so we know the headcount a head of time, if you are comfortable with that. 

  This discussion group will be moderated by L3 leadership member Julia Schiffman, a psychotherapy who works with sexually, gender, and relationally diverse individual, couples, and consenting non-monogamy-poly relationships.  

  Timeline of activities (including opening and closing circle)

  6:30-6:45 Opening Circle  and Introduction of the Weekly Topic/Excerpt 

  6:45-7:30 Group Discussion and Closing Circle

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• AWESOME BOUNDARIES: for Empowerment, Safety, and Really Good Sex! [L2]

  • When
    26 Oct 2019
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    2:00 PM - 5:00 PM
  • Location
    Escondido, CA 92027
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  This is a qualifying consent event for Level 3 if the participant has on time attendance, actively participates and demonstrates level appropriate consent skills.

  This event is automatically wait listed.

  Okay, let's admit it, at one time or another we've all said yes when we wanted to say no, no when we wanted to say yes, and maybe when we really didn't mean it. Also, at one time or another, we've pushed someone's boundaries, invaded their personal space, went in for a hug without waiting, accepted a lukewarm yes when we knew they didn't mean it. Right?!?

  In this 2 1/2 hour session you will learn and practice the following:

  * Where your line in the sand is, and where you want to test your own boundaries (maybe you don't know how you feel about something until it happens).

  * Learn how to explore safely using negotiation, changing your yes to a no when appropriate for you and giving and getting feedback.

  * Learn how to say "no", gently and with care yet with authority and finality. • How to deal with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries (dealing with it as it happens, reporting it, finding support after the fact).

  * Physical maneuvers to evade: the unwanted hug, the stray hand in a snuggle, the person who doesn't hear or respect your "no".

  * What to do if you have a fight, flight, or freeze response, and how to recognize that someone you are interacting with has frozen (usually caused by past trauma).

  This is a practical class where we discuss actual and theoretical situations, give useful information for how to deal with them and practice setting boundaries with each other.

  We are very specifically not going to be trying to place blame on self or others, as we strongly believe that this is a larger cultural and systemic problem.

  Like all problems, boundaries can best be handled by starting compassionately and with a view to problem solving and best practices.

  The sex positive movement sees people of every gender presentation longing for more love, connection, touch and pleasure in their lives. We know that sex-negativity has systematically robbed people of safe and healthy ways to get these needs met. We know that there is much work to be done to reclaim sexuality as something natural, healthy and beautiful. Helping people feel safe and empowered is key; and good boundaries are vital.

  The workshop will be led by Jen who is part of SPSD leadership team, a long time educator, and active in the sex positive community.

  
  

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• L1-Somatic Sex Education: Body, Spirit & Sexual Wellness

  • When
    02 Nov 2019
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    1:30 PM - 3:30 PM
  • Location
    The Gym in Mission Hills, 3974 Dove Street, San Diego, CA 92103
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  Have you heard of Somatic Sex Education? SSE is a relatively new alternative healing modality that deals exclusively with sexual health and wellness. The work is based on the application of mindfulness techniques to sex, of listening to our bodies, noticing and following pleasure through body sensation. Let’s face it: our culture is basically sex-negative (even though sex is used to sell everything under the sun!) We are all touched in some way by the trauma and shame that our culture places on sex positivity and the healthy acceptance of pleasure into our lives. Working with a somatic sex educator or sexological bodyworker you can learn to deepen the body’s response to sex, overcome various sexual issues and concerns, heal from trauma, learn to channel sexual energy, even come to a more spiritual understanding of the meaning and experience of sex.

  In this two-hour presentation, Somatic Sex Educators Nic Reveles (San Diego-based and SPSD Leadership Team Member) and Court Petrie (LA-based) will introduce you to this exciting new field. You will be introduced to the science underlying the work as well as the importance of setting boundaries, exploring the complexity of human touch, breath-work, massage and some of the Tantric techniques used in the modality of sexological bodywork. You’ll also engage in some simple, gentle exercises to achieve greater embodiment. No disrobing will be required and participation in any exercises will be completely optional.

  Your sexual potential is greater than you think. It is also important for your health and overall wellness! Come learn about Somatic Sex Education and its benefits for your sex life! 

  PENDING MEMBERS: this event will meet the social event requirement needed to become a full member. Just sign in with a member of leadership at the event. If you're membership has been pending for 3 or more months and you have yet to attend a social/mixer, your membership could be denied.

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• [L1] SPSD Social Mixer Event

  • When
    12 Nov 2019
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    6:00 PM - 8:00 PM
  • Location
    Bitter Brothers 4170 Morena Blvd, San Diego, CA 92117
  • Registered
    7 registrants

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  Join us for a some cocktails and connection at our monthly SPSD Social Mixer. Put a fresh spin on your Tuesday evening and meet other like-minded folks and your leadership team. This is the perfect opportunity to get to know your community & those who are a part of the leadership team, learn about Sex Positive San Diego, our mission and membership, and future events!

  This is a Level 1 event, which means it is in a public place and you are welcome to bring a friend. This event is a simple social and open to the public. Come when you can and no orientation is required. Introduce yourself, chat, and get to know some of our group members!

  This mixer will be hosted by Judy, Josh and Nic! Look for SPSD sign inside the brewery! If you have questions, feel free to ask any member of our leadership team that is in attendance. Now is your time to pick our brain about all things SPSD and sex related.
  

  What to bring: Yourself, a guest if you wish (as this is an L1 event, orientation is not a requirement to attend this event), any questions you may have for some of our leadership or senior members.

  PENDING MEMBERS: this event will meet the social event requirement needed to become a full member. Just sign in with a member of leadership at the event. If you're membership has been pending for 3 or more months and you have yet to attend a social/mixer, your membership could be denied.
  

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