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What is an Orientation?

After you have applied to the group you can attend any level 1 event that interests you. In order to become fully active in the group, we require you to have your application approved, attend an Orientation, and pay yearly member dues. Orientation is a full-evening of activity introduces our ideas and mission, explains how our group and events work, and includes some fun interactive games. These occur every other month at varying locations. After orientation, if your application has been approved and you have paid your yearly member dues, you may attend both L1 & L2 events.

Here's what a few folks have shared after attending an Orientation:

"Orientation was very clear, well-organized and put together. Everything about this event made me feel comfortable with not only my own boundaries, but recognizing and honoring others (especially how to communicate all of that). My heart swelled three sizes at the end when we all got to acknowledge our bravery for tonight."

"The leadership group is amazing!  Participants very interesting. Great job.  Took a difficult topic and nervous group and turned it into something amazing."

"The atmosphere was welcoming and comfortable. Lots of great information about asking consent. Fabulous job overall. Great info, great group of people. I look forward to attending future events."

Our events

SexPositive events are coded Level 1 through Level 3

Level One 

Friendly, flirtatious, and playful, but non-sensual. Activities might include workshops, discussion groups, classes, meet and greets, book clubs, eating, or dancing.

Level Two 

Sensual, increasingly flirtatious, but not sexual. Activities might include workshops or classes with nudity or live demonstrations, light touching, sexy dancing, or sensual massage. 


Requirements for attending L2 events: Accepted application, paid yearly member dues, attended an Orientation

Level Three 

Activities might include intimate touch, kissing, and playful exploration between individuals, couples, or groups.


Requirements for attending L3 events: Attended an advanced boundaries/consent workshop, attend (2) L2 events, attend (1) L2 touch event, leadership approval for L3 status, up to date membership dues paid


At events you are expected be respectful of the boundaries of others and of the event, to take care of yourself, and honor your boundaries and agreements. Beyond that, anything else is up to you. You will never be expected to do anything you don't want to, or to interact with anyone you don’t wish to. But we do expect you to contribute to the vibe through positive social interaction. Sex-positivity is about authentic, respectful, open communication, and being honest about your desires.

Upcoming events

    • 20 Mar 2019
    • 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM
    • Society PB-1051 Garnet Ave San Diego, Ca 92109
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    **THIS IS A QUALIFYING SOCIAL EVENT TO BECOME ELIGIBLE TO ATTEND ORIENTATION**

    Join us for a some cocktails and connection at our monthly SPSD Social Mixer. Put a fresh spin on your Wednesday and meet other like-minded folks and your leadership team. This is the perfect opportunity to get to know your community & those who are a part of the leadership team, learn about Sex Positive San Diego, our mission and membership, and future events!

    This is a Level 1 event, which means it is in a public place and you are welcome to bring a friend. This event is a simple social and open to the public. Come when you can and no orientation is required. Introduce yourself, chat, and get to know some of our group members!

    What to bring: Yourself, a guest if you wish (as this is an L1 event, orientation is not a requirement to attend this event), any questions you may have for some of our leadership or senior members.

    Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, from our leadership team, will be your host.  She will be wearing a pink sequin cowboy hat to identify herself.


    • 22 Mar 2019
    • 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM
    • LGBT Center Library-3909 Centre Street San Diego, CA 92103
    • 2
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    This discussion group is open to anyone who is curious about or already active in ethical non-monogamy lifestyle, including open relationships, swinging, polyamory. The purpose of this group is to help those just starting to gain a better understanding of ethical non-monogamy and to support individuals already navigating these relational dynamics through shared experiences and communal support. Ultimately, the hope is that you will learn more about your relational needs, wants, and desires in a space that is in support of your exploration, questions, and growth.

    This group is facilitated by a licensed professional but is not intended to be group therapy. The facilitator is an active member of SPSD and the San Diego community. She serves San Diego's alternative sexuality communities and continues to make safe spaces for sexual minority populations.

    We ask that you consider giving any amount donation and will have a donation envelop at the event since we are renting out the space from the LGBT Center and greatly appreciate it in advance!  

    • 29 Mar 2019
    • 6:30 PM - 9:30 PM
    • Address to be sent out in confirmation and reminder emails.
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    **Please note that in order to attend an Orientation, you must have attended a Social Mixer/Coffee Communion and had your application approved.**

    Orientation & Potluck - Level 1

    Come learn about our group in a fun, safe, and welcoming environment! You will be greeted by friendly core members and leaders who will answer your questions and make you feel at home.

    Attending an orientation is a requirement before you can go to higher level events. It's also a great way to get to know your community, make friends, and (bonus!) it's a really great time. Existing members: please come and help welcome the newbies! 

    Evening Schedule:

    6:20 Arrive and mingle

    6:30 Orientation with Q&A (come with questions)

    7:30 Potluck (bring a dish to share OR a NON-Alcoholic beverage)

    8:00 Social Lubrication Games (L2)

    9:15 Closing Circle


    About Orientation:

    Orientation is required in order to attend events sponsored by Sex Positive SD. Learn about the sex positive movement, the mission of the group, our website, boundaries, confidentiality, and more. There will be a Q&A, plus a chance for us to learn about you and what you want to get out of the group, and what you might wish to bring to it.

    About the Potluck: 

    Please bring a healthy dish to share - entrees and savory dishes appreciated! No junk food please. Disposable containers are recommended and we ask guests to bring home any leftovers. Our only solution for leftovers is to throw them in the dumpster, but we hate wasting food.

    About the Sensual Social & Social Lubrication Games [L2]:

    These are activities that help people loosen up and enjoy themselves. You will always have a choice about participation.

    What to bring?

    ~ A healthy dish to share 

    How to dress? 

    Street legal, as we will be meeting in a local community area. Feel comfortable, but good grooming and hygiene is important to us. We appreciate when you take the time to look your best.

    About the location?

    Orientation will be held at a coffee shop in the University Heights area.  We will send the address before the event but please know that it is in a residential area and street parking only, so plan accordingly for traffic and to allow time to find parking.  Once we have established opening circle, no later comers are allowed to enter


    • 30 Mar 2019
    • 1:00 PM - 2:30 PM
    • Address sent in reminder email 7 days before event
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    Have you ever had a great idea for a sex positive event, but don't know how to make it a reality? Are you shy about being in charge of an event?

    This training is an opportunity to learn how great ideas are formed into great events. We will look at how events are created, best practices for best results, and practice the dreaded opening circle in a safe and welcoming environment.

    This is a workshop for current L2+ members who want to learn how to run their own event. We will cover everything that goes into creating a fun and safe time with a combination of hands-on training, roleplay, and reference materials. 

    Water and vegetable/fruit trays will be provided. Please bring a container for your water.

    Whether you are a seasoned facilitator or just curious about getting started, we would love to see you.

    [Participation in the facilitator workshop does not require or guarantee any event on the SPSD calendar.]

    Timeline

    1:00 Introductions and Agenda

    1:20 Start Learning Stuff

    1:50 Review and Resources

    2:30 Close

    • 30 Mar 2019
    • 3:00 PM - 4:30 PM
    • Address in reminder email 7 days prior to event.
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    In this training for current and future facilitators and hosts, we are going to review and apply the SPSD conflict resolution policy. We will learn how to avoid and mitigate potentially unpleasant situations with members or the public through the lens of our three core values. Most importantly, we are going to PRACTICE with roleplay so that real life confrontation is not as scary.

    Whether you are seasoned or just curious about learning how to become a better facilitator, we would love to see you.

    [Participation in the facilitator workshop does not require or guarantee any event on the SPSD calendar.]

    Timeline

    3:00 Introductions and Agenda

    3:20 Start Learning Stuff

    4:10 Review and Resources

    4:30 Close

    • 30 Mar 2019
    • 5:00 PM - 6:30 PM
    • Address will be sent out in reminder email
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    This event is automatically waitlisted.  Do not ask about your place on the list, it will not help you get in. 

    As with all SPSD events, touch is neither guaranteed nor required.

    Touch it, tap it, trace it, slap it. This installment in the Toe Dippin' series is a study and practical application of wonderful ways to be touched. From the gentle caress to the sting of a spank requested by a partner, we will discuss, demonstrate, and practice how we can get intimate with no tools or toys required.

    Timeline

    5:00 Introductions and Agenda

    5:20 Start Learning Stuff

    6:10 Review and Resources

    6:30 Close

    • 13 Apr 2019
    • 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM
    • Parks & Rec, 4612 Park Boulevard, San Diego, CA 92116
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    Join us for a some cocktails and connection at our monthly SPSD Social Mixer. Put a fresh spin on your Thursday evening and meet other like-minded folks and your leadership team. This is the perfect opportunity to get to know your community & those who are a part of the leadership team, learn about Sex Positive San Diego, our mission and membership, and future events!

    This is a Level 1 event, which means it is in a public place and you are welcome to bring a friend. This event is a simple social and open to the public. Come when you can and no orientation is required. Introduce yourself, chat, and get to know some of our group members!

    This month's mixer will be hosted by Josh & Judy Brown! You will receive a reminder email closer to the date of the event which will tell you how to identify our group and our host. If you have questions, feel free to ask any member of our leadership team that is in attendance. Now is your time to pick our brain about all things SPSD and sex related.

    What to bring: Yourself, a guest if you wish (as this is an L1 event, orientation is not a requirement to attend this event), any questions you may have for some of our leadership or senior members.


Past events

24 Feb 2019 [L1]Sunday Brunch Mixer
22 Feb 2019 [L1] SPSD Discussion Group-Ethical Non-Monogamy
17 Feb 2019 [L2] Valentine's Sexy Game Night!
13 Feb 2019 **FIELD TRIP**Singles Valentine's Event
25 Jan 2019 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
09 Jan 2019 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
13 Dec 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
15 Nov 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
19 Sep 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
09 Sep 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
06 Sep 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
26 Aug 2018 Ladies ONLY Coffee Communion/Meet and Greet (everyone identifying as female welcome)
22 Aug 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
16 Aug 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
28 Jul 2018 **FIELD TRIP**Summer BBQ Social
22 Jul 2018 **FIELD TRIP**Annual Black's Beach Outing
19 Jul 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
20 Jun 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
08 Jun 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
08 Jun 2018 **Field Trip** "Pussy Grabs Back" Vagina Art Exhibit
03 Jun 2018 Coffee Communion [L1]
31 May 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
30 May 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Barnett Avenue Adult Superstore
20 May 2018 [L1] **Qualifying Event for L3** Bawdy Boundaries: Sex, Consent, & American Values
19 Apr 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
01 Apr 2018 **FIELD TRIP**Free HAI Mini Workshop: “Intimacy and Connection”
25 Mar 2018 **Field Trip**/**Qualifying L2 Touch Event** All Girl Cuddle (everyone identifying as female welcome)
22 Mar 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
21 Mar 2018 CANCELLED L2 Play Lab
18 Mar 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
18 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Rivers of Love Erotic Massage
17 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Sacred Pelvic Healing Massage
16 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Erotic Empowerment Ceremony
04 Mar 2018 **Field Trip** Bliss Puja Dirty Dancing & All Gender Play Party
02 Mar 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Tantric Massage Secrets for Couples
22 Feb 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
22 Feb 2018 [L1] Poly Discussion Group
18 Feb 2018 [L1] Orientation and Potluck and [L2] Sensual Social
13 Feb 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Passionate High: Curious About Cannabis?
09 Feb 2018 **Field Trip** Behind Closed Doors Fetish Art Exhibition
28 Jan 2018 **FIELD TRIP** The Sweet Spot San Diego: Fetish Edition (Burlesque Variety Show)
21 Jan 2018 Orientation (Level 1), Potluck, and Sensual Social (Level 2)
20 Jan 2018 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
13 Jan 2018 **Field Trip** Honoring & Pleasuring the Masculine
09 Jan 2018 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
07 Jan 2018 **FIELD TRIP** Yoni Massage with Jwala plus Potluck & Free Yummy Dancing Party
19 Dec 2017 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
17 Dec 2017 [L1] SPSD Holiday Party
17 Dec 2017 **CANCELED** Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
17 Dec 2017 Coffee Communion [L1]
14 Dec 2017 **FIELD TRIP** Taste 'n' Tinis
10 Dec 2017 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
10 Dec 2017 **Field Trip** Monogamish — San Diego Screening + Q&A w/Director
07 Dec 2017 **Field Trip** **Woman identified folks only** 3 Ways Being Comfortable with Sex Make You a Better Progressive
19 Nov 2017 [L1/L2] Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
16 Nov 2017 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
15 Nov 2017 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
28 Oct 2017 [L1] Plays Well With Others: Negotiating Relationship Boundaries and Agreements for Group Sexploration!
22 Oct 2017 **CANCELED** [L1/L2] Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
19 Oct 2017 **Field Trip** Sexual Empowerment Circle
14 Oct 2017 **FIELD TRIP** The Cock & Pussy Project San Diego
11 Oct 2017 [L1] Social Mixer
22 Sep 2017 **Field Trip** World Sexual Health Day - San Diego
21 Sep 2017 **Field Trip** 7 Barriers to a Sexually Empowered Life
17 Sep 2017 [L1/L2] Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
10 Sep 2017 [L1] Class: How to Get Freaky Without Being Creepy: Navigating Consent, Boundaries, and Touch with Charlie Glickman
24 Aug 2017 [L1] SPSD Social Mixer
25 Jun 2017 Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
10 Jun 2017 [L1] Day of Sacred Sex
21 May 2017 CANCELLED Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
30 Apr 2017 Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
19 Mar 2017 Orientation and Potluck (level 1) and Sensual Social (Level 2)
14 Mar 2017 [L1] Blow Job Grad School with Reid Mihalko
13 Mar 2017 [L1] Plays Well With Others: Negotiating Relationship Boundaries and Agreements for Group Sexploration!
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